Dating my wife
Although having a weekly date may seem like a no-brainer, many couples’ good intentions quickly get put off to some future time, when life is not so busy or there’s more money.
Pretty soon the kids are grown and couples find they’ve grown apart. It doesn’t have to always be on the same night, but it’s helpful to pencil in one night each week on your calendars; you can always change the night if a conflict comes up.
Make a list in your head of the marriages you've seen that you actually like. Most people can come up with only one or two examples of strong, lively, and attractive marriages. I don't care who you are, who you've been, or what your marriage has been through -- everything can be made new. But what you really want is a marriage that feels like a mission, a marriage that's moving forward toward something exciting, mysterious, and grand. The man who dated, wooed, and passionately pursued his girlfriend degenerates into the husband who merely shares a home, bills, conflict, and problems with his wife. Once upon a time there was a girl you really liked.
How many married couples can you think of that have a thriving marriage -- a good, happy, alive marriage -- the kind of marriage that makes other people want to get married? And you put a lot of effort into impressing that girl.
The point being, there is a very realistic danger of connecting on only a surface level unless we’re purposeful about it. ” is a good start, but these aren’t the kind of questions we ask when we’re out on a date.
Our close friends might tell you that Michelle and I are “foodies”…
that we like good food and are willing to pay a little extra to get the better cut.
Below are some ideas that go beyond the usual dinner and a movie. Not all dates have to involve going out, but if you have young children, getting a break from the kids is a stress release in itself. Alternate who gets the sitter and develop a pool of sitters.
If you’re the responsible, conscientious type, do something together that’s whacky but legal.